Hurting Others with Energy: Part 3 of 5
When an inner energy agreement is out of alignment with external action, the dissonance causes a strange sort of "pain."
In the previous two segments of this essay, I’ve been talking about the subtle ways we hurt each other, and how as we’re becoming ultrasensitive in this emerging Intuition Age, we’re building more skill with our ability to read energy patterns, decipher preverbal telepathic communication, and actually FEEL more of what’s going on under the surface. This causes us to register uncaring behavior much more consciously.
When what’s expressed externally by another person doesn’t match what’s being thought internally by them, we can sense it now, more easily than ever before. These sorts of very subtle lies or misalignments, which can cause confusion, blockages of clarity, and suppression of energy expression, can be thought of as hurting others — and ourselves. If you’re not an expert mind-reader, you’ll get that odd experience of something being “not quite right.” You may think it’s you who are “making something up” or are “not trusting enough.” Or you will subliminally distrust the other person. This doesn’t help either of us to become more loving human beings!
When you communicate clearly, though, and say what you’re feeling and thinking in a tactful way, with your various levels aligned — inner pictures, underlying opinions, and outer words and body language representing the same thing — the hidden tension is relieved, and it becomes an act of compassion. Transparent, aligned communication allows others who are involved with you to consider their position more open-mindedly, and both/all of you can then agree on a new, perhaps expanded, relational understanding.
Not Following Through
When you say you’re going to do something, then don’t follow through, there’s a damming up of energy that started flowing toward a goal, only to be stopped partway. Jumping ship midstream and expecting others to read your mind, adapt to your behavior, and clean up after you as if they don’t matter — this is a kind of cruelty. Keeping agreements is an act of compassion.
When agreements are made about what the basis of a relationship will be and one partner starts acting differently, this causes a subtle form of distress. Two people get together as friends to do business, for example, then one person sexualizes the relationship and it puts a strain on the communication and trust. Or, in a marriage, couples begin on the same page, inner agreement clear, then one wants to to follow a spiritual path while the other wants to build a successful business and make a pile of money. They stop talking and being intimate and stay together as distant “friends.” But the marriage is a lie because they are now in a sort of acquaintance relationship, and haven’t re-negotiated their “inner contract’s” terms to match the outer form.
In effect, these things are like betrayals: someone you trust acts in a way that makes you feel disrespected or unloved. When the inner energy agreement is out of alignment with external actions, results will materialize in a chaotic way because the energy can’t flow through cleanly. Whenever energy jams up artificially, there is pain.
Anything out of harmony with universal laws causes pain, and eventually intensifies and builds into problems, stuck places, systemic breakdowns, and failure. Participating in realities that are not aligned with universal principles causes subtle forms of suffering.
Another example of this sort of thing concerns money and debt. When you borrow money from others with an agreement to either pay it back or provide services or products of equal value, then default on the loan or the deal, or don’t provide the service, you create a misalignment and block the flow of energy and consciousness. You’ve not only created a financial debt, but an energy debt, and you’ve hurt both yourself and the other party.
Part of this is not communicating cleanly and honestly about why you chose to change the inner agreement. When an inner agreement or inner blueprint is set, defined, and agreed upon, it tries to materialize. But when people shift midstream without consciously re-negotiating the inner agreement, a lack of congruence arises, which feels painful in its confusion, confoundment, and contraction.
We’ve always glossed over these “small” kinds of pain, because, “Well, that’s the human condition.” Or, “What else can I expect?” And that form of pessimism is also a way we hurt ourselves with energy!
(continued in Part 4)
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